Here are some at home date ideas when you can’t afford to date your husband. In some seasons it’s hard to make dating your spouse a priority. Don’t miss these ideas on how to date your husband when you can’t afford dates.
As mamas of young children, we tend to focus most of our time and energy on our children. Especially for those mamas who stay home with their children, it’s hard to change this mindset.
It is for me anyway. All-day every day my attention is on my children. When my husband comes home, I’m done. As my daughter would say, “I don’t even have one energy left.”
You’ve heard you should date your husband, but once those words are said you zone out.
You know it’s important. You know your marriage is struggling because your time is consumed with kids, the house, work, laundry.
So how do you make marriage work when you can’t afford to hire a babysitter once a month, let alone once a week?
It’s easy to turn on the television or hop on Facebook or Pinterest, watch Instagram Stories, and zone out. It’s even easier to give up and throw up your hands because it’s pointless to plan a date night when you know the babysitter will cancel or a kid will get sick.
But friends, that is not how we feed our marriage.
Let’s stop this cycle right now.
Maybe you are like us. We don’t have family around who can watch our children for free. If we go out, we have to get a babysitter. That costs money and isn’t always an option. Here are some practical at home date ideas for how to plan date nights when you can’t afford to date. Affiliate links have been used below.
10 At Home Date Ideas with Your Husband
1. Picnic and a Movie at Home.
Go ahead and fix dinner for the kids. You could already have them in bed when your husband comes home, or while one of you is getting the kids ready for bed the other can be set up the picnic. You could pick out a new release or a movie that brings back memories of when you were dating. We love using Redbox to rent movies. You can’t beat the price. Just remember to take it back on time! Netflix is another great option if you already subscribe. For the picnic, keep it simple. You want to be able to enjoy your time together.
2. Take an online cooking class together.
This isn’t for everyone, but I think it would be fun. Put the kids in bed early and spend the evening in the Kitchen cooking together. I know I’ve heard a lot of good things about America’s Test Kitchen. There are also 20 Essential Cooking Techniques (w/ Brendan McDermott) or Craftsy Food and Cooking Classes just search for baking, which look amazing.
3. If you didn’t want to take a class together, you could still make a meal together.
Making sushi together and then eating your creations. Making his favorite meal together with you. If you got neighbors involved (it would really need to be a next-door neighbor since children are sleeping), you could have a cook-off. A stay at home double date!
4. Phone and/or text him during the day to let him know that you are thinking about him.
I am more of a texter, but if you’re not, I’m sure he’d still love to hear your voice. If he immediately answers and asks what’s wrong, you might need to make more contact during the day :).
5. Leave notes to brighten his day.
On the screen of his laptop, in his briefcase, on the steering wheel of his car, on his cell phone, in his lunch if he takes one. Place a note, or multiple notes wherever you look most.
*If you’re going to write something racy, I would come up with code words together or use emoji’s to save everyone from embarrassment. Just sayin’.
6. Go outside.
Sit on your front porch or back porch together. Hold hands. Talk. It’s really the simple things that we forget to do. It doesn’t have to be big and elaborate.
What would life be like if you could flip a switch and be “in the mood”? Okay, maybe there’s no switch. But you can totally change the way you think about sex!
7. Go for a walk as a family and hold hands.
8. Kiss each other first thing in the morning, before he/you leave for work, when he/you return home, and before you go to sleep at least.
9. Make a list of what you love about him.
If your kids are old enough, ask them what they love about Daddy and write them down.
I don’t suggest talking about budgets or finances during this time though. Save that conversation for later. But one of the reasons for at home date ideas is to communicate and talk about life, your feeling, reconnect, and see how you are really doing.
Are you with me? I would love for you to share your ideas on how to date your husband in the comments. Marriage is something that we have to work on. Every. Single. Day. We can’t put our marriage in vacation mode or autopilot and expect it to survive. Be intentional. Date your husband. You’ll be glad you took the time.
What are some ways that you can be intentional about dating your husband this week?